Chronic emotional avoiders do not know what they’re feeling because not knowing is itself a powerful form of avoidance. (Damn, that’s me)

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For example, the client who values education might be asked, “What if you received the education, but no one knew. Would that still be of importance?” We can practice our attention in different ways. I’ve included some useful techniques in my new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. For now, let’s focus on a simple practice you can do easily at home right now.

What you are doing is practicing broadening and narrowing the flashlight beam of attention; and shifting and staying, as you might move a flashlight from one place to another. Defusion and acceptance naturally support the development of the self as an ongoing process of awareness.

Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teens Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teens

The bond with your therapist may matter less than you might think. Here's what really makes a difference.

Whenever you find yourself slipping and reverting to bad, old habits, reflect on these 3 questions. levels of self: 1. Conceptualized self, 2. Self as ongoing process of self-awareness, 3. Observing self

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Throughout the chapters every now and then they have to keep telling you, "you are suffering you are suffering you are suffering"..what the hell??? ..and yeah the exercises.. let's remember all of our sufferings.. besides, implementing exercises through a book is a terrible thing! After five years of analysing over 50.000 studies on what helps people make a change, we finally have an answer. And it's simpler than you might think. The past is verbally remembered and the future is verbally imagined or “languaged” with images (23)

Steven C. Hayes, PhD, is Nevada Foundation Professor in the department of psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of thirty-four books and more than 470 scientific articles, he has shown in his research how language and thought leads to human suffering, and cofounded ACT, a powerful therapy method that is useful in a wide variety of areas. Hayes has been president of several scientific societies and has received several national awards, including the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy.