Overall, I was really impacted by this book. It has given me some great tips on how to act professionally and what all I need to do to help make a successful career. I took off one star for the chapter on "How You Look," since to me, it seemed ridiculous and dated.

In a few cases, that might work. But in most office situations, that’s overly aggressive and not good advice.She explains that the goal is not to act like a poor imitation of a man; rather to act as an adult woman and not the little girl you were taught to be in childhood. It is all about perception, and to change that you need to work on your credibility factor.

Stop needing to be liked. I think this is so ingrained in teaching gender roles--that it's better to be liked than many other things. Remember that when people are angry/annoyed at you, it might be because they're trying to get you to do something that they want/act a certain way. I'm not sure that I 100% agree with this, but I do know that being liked isn't necessarily the best method of achieving what you want at the risk of everything else. Some women ask for permission more out of habit than actually having to ask for the green light for something. By asking for permission before acting, we are less likely to be accused of making a mistake, but we are also less likely to be perceived as confident risk-takers. Don't poll before you make a decision, aka 'crowdsourcing,' of which I'm very guilty of doing. I think it's fine when you're trying to decide where to meet for dinner or what to wear, but professionally, it shows that you can't make a decision. Action item: take risks--make small decisions without input. Figure out what you have to lose if you do X.

Men rely on relationships to open doors for them; they don’t view it as taking advantage of anyone. Being the Last to Speak: try to be among the first three to speak. If you don’t have a point, you can build on what other said, or drop some comments like “that sounds like a good idea” Here's your first coaching tip: Don't begin reading this book until you've learned how to use it to your advantage. You'll only end up thinking everything applies to you in equal proportions when in fact you're probably doing better than you think. I'm always surprised when a woman tells me, "I make every mistake you list in the book!" You know how we women can be—more critical of ourselves than necessary and reluctant to take credit where it's due. When I coach women, I often tell them that changing behavior is much easier if they can understand where it comes from and what purpose it serves. All behavior serves a purpose—take a few minutes now to understand what purpose yours serves.

Your need to be liked is natural, and it can be a good thing. But it shouldn’t stop from taking risks and hard decisions. A bit dated, but clearly relevant, given what all I've seen on the Metro of women dressed for work. You can still be who you are and operate according to your values, while asking for what’s rightfully yours, setting better boundaries, speaking up, and learning to act like you deserve your success. Because you do. The way I see it, if you’re not hearing “no” every now and then, you’re not asking for enough. Or to put it differently, if you are always hearing “yes”, you’re probably selling yourself short. So, moral of the story, don’t wait to be given what’s owed you – ask for it. Don't sell yourself short. "When offered a position or assignment that's new to you, TAKE IT. If others have enough confidence in you that you can do the job, YOU SHOULD, TOO." I need to remember this.Failing to proactively negotiate at work costs nice girls not only money, but affects career opportunities and job success as well”, says Frohlinger, author, keynote speaker, and Managing Director for Negotiating Women Inc. “ Women have to raise their hands to let people know they are interested when a big job becomes available. They have to request the resources required to get the job done. They have to reach an agreement on project parameters and deadlines. And yes, they certainly have to advocate when it comes to compensation”. CAROL Frohlinger Since then, women’s rights movements in many Western countries have successfully established near gender equality before the law – but when it comes to their careers, women are still at a disadvantage. This book was exciting at first, but then turn to uncomfortable. First, It made me feel that being a Girl itself is a guilt, acting like a girl, thinking like a girl is not recommended in work place. So basically this book tell people "how to act like a man" because high positions are mostly held by man. If you "don't see a man do this, you should not do this" (!!!?!) . Second, it provide too many no right- no wrong recommend for both gender, but still emphasize only female worker often do this and that, but male co worker don't. Reading the examples I feel that all the male's thinking, behavior are perfect? This book is not show girls how to find their deserve equality in work place but tell them to follow a man model role, to copy those successful male's behavior and thinking. I'm so impressed with the book I intend on buying copies for female friends as graduation presents. I also loved that Frankel recommends a plethora of other resources and career coaching books throughout. She is a generous author who never fails to cite and recommend her influences, a rare skill in a world of self-promotional and narcissistic branding.

Stop being so patient. If you don't ask, it might not happen: promotions, etc. If told that you're being impatient, ask when a good time would be to revisit the issue. If asked to wait a long time, ask WHY such a long time is needed. However, there seems to be a common tendency among women to feel that they are asking for too much, when in fact, they are not. Instead, male counterparts are generally much more comfortable asking for what they want and feel completely entitled to have their request fulfilled.Directly answer whatever question there is. Don't waffle. Take a risk--say 'yes' or 'no.' You don't have to be 100% perfect--better than sounding wishy-washy. Don't share too much personal information. If a personal situation is affecting job performance, don't explain, but say, "I'm going through a rough time right now but my job is important to me. I'll work on paying closer attention to the details." To those who still struggle to act more confidently, to be more assertive and step into their own power, or who are trying to break with self-defeating behaviors, I hope these few tips from the book were useful in some way.