There are many ways to put someone in “sub space”—a state of mind in which your inhibitions and ego go completely out the window and you are overcome by an utterly submissive feeling. I can be contacted in many ways, but during My tours I’m always very busy and can’t check every channel, therefore I give preference to the phone.

A truly professional and experienced dominatrix is more like a guide through the less accessible sexual pleasure that some men—and women—find in the acts of submission or masochism, both in and out of a dungeon. Being both a Dominant and a submissive means being uncomfortable, being vulnerable, open, honest, truthful, respectful, have a sense of humor, and a willingness to fail and grow from those failures. But the men who see dominatrixes are your next door neighbor, your doctor, your boss, your gardener, your student, your relative. I get asked this question quite often and I think it’s because people want to believe that someone who would visit a dominatrix is “other,” or different than themselves.Just thinking about turning the “male gaze” back on itself—revealing male desire as a desperate need for female attention—makes me giggle. Cass placed her hands under her head and looked up at the ceiling as Shae started with tiny pecks on the tops of her feet, alternating between the two randomly. I co-wrote a book titled How to be a Dominant Diva which focuses on giving couples the inspiration and tools to explore eroticism, role-play and power exchange in a way that is exciting but never intimidating! You, as a Dominant, are responsible for someone’s happiness and satisfaction, for understanding their needs and making sure they are met.

The truth of the matter is that my clients are men, women, couples, crossdressers, tall, short, fat, skinny, professionals, students, caucasian, black, Asian, Hispanic, Middle Eastern, old, young, talkative, shy, rich and working class. I found myself at a crossroads in my life and thought perhaps I should try something new, and it changed my life. We understand that not everyone can donate right now, but if you can afford to contribute, we promise it will be put to good use.In the six-minute clip, a pushy male is made to live up to his boastful words by two dominant women. Don’t think for a second that our revolution will be confined to the bedroom or the kinky games a couple may play. Ses­sions are con­duct­ed in my study, which has been care­ful­ly dec­o­rat­ed and fur­nished to pro­vide an authen­tic atmos­phere and con­tains a vault­ing horse and a leather-topped desk for use in pun­ish­ments. There are no restrictions on what can be published beyond those in common law in all relevant jurisdictions.

What's weird to me is not necessarily weird to the vanilla bystander, but my strangest session by far ended up with me writing two comparative essays for the sub.As a lesbian dominatrix, I also specialize in cross-dressing and feminization because I love transforming male clients into the superior gender.

Submissive, conversely, is defined as ready to conform to authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive. On the one hand we have power and influence, on the other we have obedience and passivity (you brats just hold your tongue for a little while). Sure, you can go online and find someone who will gladly take your money, slap you around a bit and then have sex with you—but that’s not a service provided by a dominatrix. The following standards of etiquette and decorum set the tone for how you are expected to behave when engaging with Me. Sign up to unlock our digital magazines and also receive the latest news, events, offers and partner promotions.There are varying degrees of all of this, from the Master/slave dynamics to inferiority to fetishes–more than we could possibly cover in one post.