She said she watched out of her 4th floor office saw them over by the van looking at what she'd left on my mirror. "Kind of embarrassing that they now know what kind of ** I wear - and that I wasn't wearing ANY when I walked past them!" I would seriously ask him this question. And I would seriously call a marriage counselor. I get that he has a fetish and that's fine, but you should not be pressured into doing something that doesn't also work for you when you feel it compromises how you feel about yourself. This isn't like "Try this butt plug once and see if you like it," this is "Please do something you will probably hate that will leave an indelible effect on how you feel about yourself, forever." But I wanted to try sex with strangers, one-night stands, threesomes… I’ve always had a fantasy of including more people in our playtime. Partner-sharing was high on my list of unrealized kinks. NOPE! - this baby was a mini skirt - showing a lovely degree of her creamy thighs...sitting just below her little while bikini **....which were on view several times that day...especially when tending to our son in his stroller! She could squat by his stroller in a very lady-like manner, and keep her knees together - but that skirt was so high....if you were at the right angle - her ** was easy to see up there....and well, it was a lot of fun to watch her. I had an ongoing thing with a bartender who worked five minutes away from my house. We were both married, so the situation turned messy, but at first it was fun.” — Johnny, 47

Well dude, she came up to me and asked me for a smoke. She bummed one off and then we started talking." He grinned and said, "No hair on it." my wife just laughed and told him he wasn't supposed to be peeking. In-between each time I simply let it go, thought the matter was resolved, and and kept going. The last time he brought it up though, something happened with me. Since then I have been alternating between crying, and being really angry, and can't seem to just shake it off this time. I asked my husband to go to counseling with me, but he refuses. I don’t know why this time was so much different than all the other times he brought it up, but I just feel depressed and broken. I just can't seem to get him to understand that from my perspective he is asking me to commit adultery and compromise the very foundation of my self respect. Best case scenario, your therapist helps you get your husband into that office with you and dealing with some stuff. Worst case, you've got someone's understanding and support while you decide what to do next.i don't even like the thoughts of my husband with another woman and i know he doesn't like the thoughts of me with another man least it be his best friend.. what are you people thinking?? what kind of religion are you??? Christain people doesn't act that way or do things like that the bible speakes about that it's wrong very very wrong Later, when he slept, I returned to my husband, who to my surprise was still awake and eagerly embraced me. I attempted to apologise for my behavior, but my husband told me he was overjoyed to hear my cries of pleasure and to know that his request of me was not a burden. His own lovemaking seemed more forceful and passionate than usual. He caressed me and kissed me over and over, telling me he was pleased. I was quite aghast when he kissed down my body, as I had no used any barrier and was quite full our dear friend's quite abundant ejaculant, but if I thought this would dissuade my husband, I was wrong. Namely, no one other than my husband had seen my body in 10 years. I wasn’t in my twenties anymore. I was thirty and a lot has changed since I was all young and tight.

Then he popped his head in the door and said, "so! How are you two getting along?" SURPRISE! Boy was I ever. But they didn't quite get the reaction they were hoping for... I don't think the specifics (much less the morality) of your husband's fascination matters very much. Our fantasies are our fantasies, and they're not to be judged. HOWEVER: you're not his sex robot. Your relationship is supposed to be deeper. If getting off is an obsession, then love isn't enough. And if love isn't enough, then love isn't there. Love is ALWAYS enough if it's really there. I'm afraid that's the underlying problem. In the meantime, while you are working on finding a therapist and getting that first appointment and really getting going, I would recommend doing some stuff on your own. Take a class. Go out for coffee with a good friend. Do things that nourish your soul and be your own best friend for awhile. If you somehow figure out a way through this with him, where he actually stops acting like a moron, great! You practiced some self care when you needed it, which is a great and healthy thing to do! If not, well, you're starting to build out your own support network, which you'll need as you process what comes next, whether it's separation or divorce.John, who is ironically a marriage, relationship and sexual coach, shares: “My wife and I went out with some friends for bowling and beer. We both had a little too much to drink.” However, that didn’t stop him from initiating intercourse with his wife that night. “I was happily pumping away with a full bladder. I began to feel the urge to ejaculate (or so I thought in my half drunken stupor). The problem was that I was peeing instead of ejaculating.” 5. Caught in the act I slept with a bride on her wedding night. But I slept with the groom too. It was the weirdest (yet hottest) threesome.” — Jacob, 28 This is about fear, full stop. Everything else that's going on here is stemming from your husband's fear of being cheated on and what being cheated on symbolizes about his qualities and selfworth. You should not treat this as a simple fetish (though it certainly is that)-- this is a psychological manifestation of a serious problem that your husband has regarding trust and being valued in your relationship. That you have not expressed any familiarity or interest in other kinks (in this post, at least) but your husband still brought this up as a possibility suggests that this issue is particularly serious for him. Just as a last thought, many men like the thought of their wife and another guy (i know i do) so he may be the same and he may like the idea of you and him. either way you need to talk to him. as for the more men only you know what you like