Of course sexual shame is as pervasive and as damaging as Zane argues, and much of the information and advice here seems likely to benefit people who take it to heart. At 10 years old, he confessed this to his therapist, whom, of course, he pictured naked: “his penis flanked by a big ol’ pair of saggy balls […]'Don’t think of his balls. By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. I have a lot of notes, and my gremlin brain is going crazy because this review won’t get anywhere if I choose to go into each annotation. Zach blushes, visible even over Zoom: “Thank God ‘daddies’ are in, and I think I’ll be sexually desirable well into my sixties.

But it’s no mere titillating freak show, this is experience as peer learning, a seriously oversharing account of how mistakes can lead to transformation, how trauma left to fester reasserts itself in damaging habits and how breakdown can be breakthrough. It offers great insight on how to deal with peoples relationship with porn, hook up apps and your personal relationships, and how to keep them separate from one another. As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. When you have a woman around your arm, you’re seen as one of those awful straight people co-opting that space. He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama) and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts, including "The Savage Lovecast" and “Whoreible Decisions.

com/damianbarrliterarysalon/ 8pm-9pm GMT May 9th 2023 for a Salon Insta Live Special hosted by Uli Lenart from Gay’s the Word. I’ve been pegged by a New York Times bestselling author, bred contestants from America’s Next Top Model, boned countless queens from RuPaul’s Drag Race, and fucked Emmy, Tony, and Grammy winners. The book is divided into four sections, each with its own specific theme and message: Shame, Confusion, Security, and Pride.

Having never known any Bi men closely, I learned a lot here, so that made the book useful to me; but I think it could have been half as long, and I would have finished it with just as much knowledge and understanding. It’s one of those calculated slutty risks that I’ve analyzed, and the decision that I’ve come to, while controversial, is mine […] If (or when) we start to see major outbreaks of antibiotic-resistant gonorrhea, I’ll start wrapping it up, but until then, I’m going to keep raw-dogging it. htm), and every avoidable infection now being treated with cephalosporins represents another tiny increment toward resistance to those as well. You think about the devastating ends of their lives—how they felt, what they missed, and who missed them after they were gone. I tell Zach that I enjoyed the irreverent sexiness and authenticity of Boyslut, but some issues nag at me as a 79-year-old woman who came of age sexually in a very different and more restrictive time.I can see how some thoughts might be problematic (safe-sex for example, and the views presented) but again, who are any of us to judge? From stories of drug-fuelled threesomes and risqué Grindr hook-ups to insights on dealing with rejection and living with his boyfriend and his wife, Boyslut is reassuring and occasionally funny – a testimo I respect that Queer Majority has a fucking opinion and goes against the grain in a way I really appreciate.

As we’re starting to see more LGBT narratives in mainstream cultures, I really thought bi people were being left out, particularly bisexual men. His work has been published in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, Slate, Cosmo, Bustle, VICE, NBC, Dazed, The Daily Beast, and many others.From talking about the weird things we’d do as kids or the sexual guilt we can feel growing up, or how we have to stop the shame around STIs, Zane manages to keep you invested as well as making you feel like you’re in a gaff having four am banter with a close mate.