For too long we have been protecting the ones who have hurt us by minimizing our trauma and deprivation. Its time to stop protecting them and start to protect ourselves. We have been told and feel that we are responsible for their emotional well-being. We are not. We are responsible only for ourselves. This is the case for Thea, where a tragic mistake changes her life forever and she becomes a social outcast with little recollection of what happened on that fateful day.

A sincere apology can help you begin repairing damage after a wrongdoing. By apologizing, you convey remorse and regret to the person who was hurt, and let them know how you plan to avoid making the same mistake in the future. It’s natural to feel guilty when you know you’ve done something wrong. But guilt can also take root in response to events you didn’t have much, or anything, to do with. You may not always have the ability to apologize directly. If you can’t get in touch with the person you hurt, try writing a letter instead. Getting your apology out on paper can still be beneficial, even if they never see it.Doing something that makes you feel good inside will replace those guilty feelings with good and positive feelings. Clay RA. (2016). Don't cry over spilled milk—The research on why it's important to give yourself a break. One tragic event, a mistake by a mother, changes the lives of so many people. Thea can't remember a lot of what happened that fateful day but is told a story that breaks her. Without saying too much something happens to her child that you would never wish on anybody. Thea is told that she is to blame, but she can't believe that she would do it. As the trial looms she slowly starts to regain her memory and realises that somebody close to her has done this to her - but why and how? All the characters have secrets that they want to stay hidden. Since people who suffer from chronic self-blame constantly feel shame and guilt, they are exceptionally susceptible to manipulation. The manipulator can always appeal to their false sense of responsibility, or blame them for something, or shame them to get what they want. With a story ripped from the headlines, Thea is a mother you want to hate, but in a way you can also feel sympathy for her as well. It is definitely emotional what she is going through and as much as I want to say what happened should never have occurred, people make mistakes. Only the mistakes made one terrible day, Thea can’t even remember. The inner struggle Thea goes through is really emotional to see and read. Thea can’t believe she did what she is accused of. But, her friends and family all agree she is to blame. Why would they lie to her or what would they have to gain from lying. She is guilty, isn’t she?

Where the evidence of an accomplice is to be used, there is no requirement in law for the judge to give the jury a warning about it. However, the judge has discretion to give a direction where he or she thinks it is advisable to do so. Charging an Accomplice to a crime An accomplice must be capable in law of committing the offence, e.g. a child under 10 years old can never be classed as an accomplice. The Law on Accomplices Thea made a catastrophic mistake,a mistake that resulted in the death of her baby and Thea being labelled the worst mother in the world. She can't remember exactly what happened that day but everyone she trusts keep insisting that it was her fault and they wouldn't lie to her.....would they? When you hurt someone, it can sometimes be hard to apologize. This might be because you’re feeling shame, and this is natural and very common. Say to yourself, or write down, what happened: “I feel guilty because I shouted at my kids.” “I broke a promise.” “I cheated on a test.”

You may see guilt as a negative emotion, which leads to other negative emotions. But you can also try turning guilt into gratitude. Studies show that guilt can help you do things that are morally right. Guilt can make you honest. So whenever you are feeling guilty, try to look at it in a positive way. Learn to appreciate that guilt because it will help you grow as a person. Before an accomplice can give evidence for the prosecution, he or she must have never been charged in the proceedings or, if charged, must have; We,Humans are many things but we are definitely not infallible,we do make mistakes. Some are tiny and inconsequential and some have major consequences and can affect more than just one person. Li Z, et al. (2020). Guilty by association: How group-based (collective) guilt arises in the brain. Most people have, since mistakes are a natural part of human growth. Still, the guilt that creeps in and stakes out space in your consciousness can cause plenty of emotional and physical turmoil.

But as time goes on, things start to become clearer and Thea soon realises that she may not be at fault! False responsibility leads to false guilt, and false guilt leads to self-blame. Over time, you internalize it. This makes you more susceptible to being manipulated and taken advantage of, where you sacrifice your own well-being and self-interest to please and take care of others. In other words, self-erasure. Owning up to mistakes is important, even if you only admit them to yourself. It’s equally important to take note when you unnecessarily blame yourself for things you can’t control.

Why do we feel guilty?

They said it was my fault. They said I’m the worst mother in the word. And even though I can’t remember what happened that day, they wouldn’t lie to me. Guilt can also stem from the belief that you’ve failed to fulfill expectations you or others have set. Of course, this guilt doesn’t reflect the effort you’ve put in to overcome the challenges keeping you from achieving those goals. But there is no need to wallow in guilt. If you think that you can fix the problem by apologizing, then it might be a good solution. You may not get the results that you want, but the person you hurt will see that you’re trying to fix your mistake. That can go a long way. Then Thea starts to remember tiny snippets from that tragic day and starts to have the feeling that something is wrong. Are the people she trusts lying to her and keeping secrets from her? Is she as guilty as they say and if she is innocent,then what really happened and what will happen when the truth comes out?