If the mums at the school gate knew the truth about our relationship I’m not sure they’d be so keen on play dates. I hope in the future that ‘openness’ will be less taboo and I won’t have to feel guilty about my life choice, but for now, I’m keeping my swinging hobby firmly under wraps. Unless, of course, you’re interested? I want to make it clear that I was never forced into this, nor did he threaten to leave our marriage if I didn’t embark on this journey. What convinced me to try swinging was my pursuit of a more honest and open marriage and exploring my own personal curiosities. Image: Tey Liang Jin / RICE File Photo A New Beginning

As you can see, the swing lifestyle is extremely varied and interesting. Therefore, there’s every chance that you know someone who swings themselves. Is the Swinger Lifestyle Community Couples Only? So you and your partner want to be swingers? Here’s a beginner guide for curious couples! What is swinging? The couple mainly meet others in hotels or when the children are away (Picture: Vista Wife) Swingers have pampas grass in their gardens Being part of a couple makes it easier to discover the swing lifestyle. However, don’t feel as though you can enjoy swinging if you’re single, although this is no different from being single and venturing out for one-night stands. It’s been discovered that single women find it easier to get involved with couples. However, single men can find it increasingly difficult to be accepted or embraced by the swinging community. The Swingers Life - Getting into It You half-heartedly nagged for swinging (for sensationalism reasons) but what you DIDN'T ask for was for adultery. So, no, you DIDN'T ask for and get what you deserved.Some couples think that swinging may resolve other relationship issues, but it’s not always the case.’ Isabelle also recommends researching online and talking to people involved in swinging/soft-swinging to better understand what it involves and what options exist. Furthermore, you’ll need a solid relationship to consider trying swing lifestyle, while trust is going to need to be strong. Some people find the thought of swinging a little wild, yet the actual idea appeals. Sometimes, a fantasy should remain as a fantasy because making it a reality can cause problems. However, discussing this with your partner or exploring swinging literature could be enough to fulfill your specific needs.

If you’re new to this whole thing, be clear about the things that scare you and what you’d like your partner to do or not to. Discuss same sex relationships and what to do if you’re at an event and want to leave. Is it okay for your partner to stay behind without you or will you both be leaving? The more open and communicative you are the better. Swinging Clubs There are different foundational factors that can lead to problems, including your reasons for trying it, how much trust there is, how honest you are with each other, and how well you communicate,’ Isabelle explains.As a couple, you’re a team, so you should behave like a team when you start your journey into the swing lifestyle. Therefore, to have the best experience when entering the swing lifestyle you should have a mini debrief after every event or experience. This will enable you to discuss what worked, what didn’t work, and whether any further rules need to be added. This discussion provides an open platform that can help your next experience become even better than the last one. Don’t Underestimate Communication