My advice to others is don’t be afraid, there are people out there if you’re scared or if you need help, and I know love is a strong feeling but you need to live the life you want, not feel suffocated and unhappy. Jasmine Let's talk about Sex! Get ready for an engaging and eye-opening episode of Women Who Rebrand! Sareta is joined by the incredible Bima Loxley, a Clinical Sexologist who specialises in helping individuals, couples, and multiple-partnered relationships. Together, they... read more Breaking the Narcissistic Mother Cycle for Future Generations E47 The fact we weren’t right for each other didn’t emerge straight away because we had a long-distance courtship and marriage, but the more time we spent in the same city the less we had to talk about. He was a kind, supportive man but not an observant or reflective one. I knew I would grow impatient with him, so I left. (Yes, I gave another explanation.) I now look at my marriage and know, very confidently, that yes, we were definitely not good for each other. Of course, as soon as I left, all the red flags came flooding forward (from the past 6 years of our romantic relationship.) I’ve also come to the wonderful conclusion that I am, and never will be, the victim. I had done everything right and stayed true to my heart. I was committed, faithful, and hardworking. It is CLEAR as day that my husband was/is the victim of his own crimes, and will forever live in the filth and consequences of his actions. I won’t! It had nothing to do with me, and my life has become my own again. Never again will I sacrifice my emotions or boundaries, and I will respect my heart from now on. I have the freedom to do and say whatever I want, and no one will ever take that away from me again. I am victorious, and he is vile. That I am my own person and no one can control you and you do what you want, as I am allowed to be happy.

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At the age of 23 I moved for him to be able to work, I left all my friends and family behind for a fresh start. Bella Sir Paul Coleridge, a former high court judge, has said that many people wish they hadn’t ended their marriage. This follows a survey by the law firm Seddons that found 22% of those who had divorced wished they hadn’t done so. How did you find telling other people about your decision, did you ever feel a pressure to stay through fear of other people’s opinions? My husband (at the time,) and I had been together for 5 years and married for one (married Sept 2020.) From August 2021-December 2021, he became extremely emotionally abusive and very distant from our love life. He would constantly abandon me at home to go out and party/drink with friends, and he began spending a lot of time at the gym. Whenever I would express concern or hurt, I was downplayed & degraded. It had gotten so bad, that I finally decided to leave him on December 22nd, 2021, and stay the night at my parent’s house. The next morning he called, and finally confessed that he had been cheating on me since the summer. That’s when I knew I had not been crazy all along, and all my emotions had been valid. We are now separated, and I can file for divorce on December 23rd, 2022 (this Christmas.) I will have just turned 28 years old. Divorce did not typically reduce symptoms of depression, raise self-esteem, or increase a sense of mastery.So if single parenthood is really so good, why the radio silence? Shouldn’t we all be shouting it from the rooftops? T he poet, Holly McNish who loves her life as a single mother, think it’s because mum’s feel guilty gushing about how good they find their child free time to be. In Get Divorced Be Happy she says,

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How did you find telling other people about your decision, did you ever feel pressure to stay through fear of other people’s opinions? I know what I want now, and I can take as much time as I want. I have also found that my marriage and how I was treated, left me damaged and questioning if I am allowed to do it now after I wasn’t allowed to before, so I’m having to adjust that I can do stuff I want. I’ve also found that I want to share my emotions and thoughts better now as well.

For the whole marriage I was under the pressure of his mental abuse. He was a really toxic person who liked to blame everything on me and never agreed or admitted to his mistakes.It was a relief for me getting that divorce. I had felt it for a long time but I kept brushing it aside and told myself I was just going through my own stuff and it wasn’t the relationship that was the issue. The main reason for convincing myself of this is because there was nothing explicitly wrong with our relationship that made me want to get out. I just fell out of love with him and it didn’t feel like it once did. It was like living with a good friend. A study showed that unhappily married adults who divorced were no happier than unhappily married adults who stayed married. The RRP is the suggested or Recommended Retail Price of a product, set by the publisher or manufacturer.

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When the pandemic hit and we were all forced to stay inside, I realised that this situation really wasn’t for me and I needed to get out. Alicia I still feel bad for the hurt I caused, and I have, on occasion, missed his kindness, but I remain convinced that our marriage would have grown biter and miserable.Perhaps one day, when his kids are grown up, we might be able to have another shot at happiness. I feel guilty every day for what I did. I realise now we had a brilliant (not perfect, but brilliant) marriage. The new law removes the need to ‘blame’ one party and will encourage a more constructive approach to separation, promoting reconciliation and reflection where possible but ultimately trusting the judgment of the couple involved. Sign up to get the #WWR newsletter for notifications about new podcast episodes & guest opportunities. I will never regret it as I wouldn’t be me without that experience and I wouldn’t have my job now, be with the man I love, or have the friends and family without them. But I do regret parts of it and for letting myself stay in a situation that changed me for the bad. Never put up with behaviour from a partner that you wouldn’t expect from a best friend. What Are Rule The Rules For Divorce In The UK