Confusing Love With Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control

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Another feature is that the obsessed person does not know how to let go of an individual or the intrusive thoughts. Relationally dependent individuals try to manipulate their partners through emotional abuse, money or other points of control. Although the characters of the book come from diverse backgrounds and behave in different ways, they are bound by the same problem. To keep it real, it is only normal to be a little jealous once in a while, particularly if you are involved with a guy that is super attractive and gets a lot of attention.

However, all of these heroes have the same number of characteristics in regards to their relationships. When we look at love and obsession from 30,000 feet, there are chiral elements involved, meaning that they look similar to one another but are very much different. It is also important to see, that many people, who are afflicted by relation dependency, are not aware of possible consequences of their actions.While it is clear, that associating somebody with one of the main characters or their partners means admitting that this person likely was in an obsessive relationship, there is a person that, in my opinion, would identify with one of the stories. According to this idea, there are six types of love, and each type has apparent characteristics and traits. I appreciate how he went into more detail about the impact obsession can have on the dynamics of the relationship.

It does not offer information or perspective from the viewpoint of an outsider or even of a person who knows someone in an addictive relationship but is not personally involved.Learning more about the cause of the distrust and need to control is an important step towards the path of healing. While in the book Chris’s actions may look irrational to some people, there is a reason for his actions. Afflicted person may feel the need to be constantly present in a partner’s life by contacting them multiple times during the day and possibly following them or participating in the same activities. My own experiencing has been that both women and men can have problems crushing on another and that crushing turning into something unhealthy, like obsession.