The Truth About Chastity: A Tease and Denial Handbook

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I’ve also noticed that chaste men become more driven and therefore their level of productivity increases exponentially. If you remove distractions they focus on other things, which I find very beneficial personally. He wants to please me and will do any number of tasks that he’s set to gain a reward. I believe having a “lifestyle” keyholder, a platonic friend or ex-girlfriend, is the best option, and not only because it’s free. I think it is just a better experience, closer to what men in relationships enjoy from having a wife or partner as their keyholder. But, if that’s not an option for you, there are professional ladies out there willing to hold your keys for a fee. Bondage techniques are commonly used to restrain the person being sexually denied, allowing them to experience their powerlessness more intensely. [2] This practice is typically called "tie and tease" and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games. This practice is often an integral part of sexual denial. In discussions between BDSM partners, negotiation usually focuses on the activities which may or may not be agreed to. Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense, because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage. Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p.82. ISBN 978-1-5070-3399-9.

You’ll find your man wearing a chastity cage will make him more loving and communicative, and more willing to help around the house. And he’ll do this not because he’s necessarily feeling submissive, but because his feelings will make him close to you, and people who are close like to do nice things for each other, don’t they? Not everyone wears a chastity belt out of personal desire or punishment. Some wear it out of love for their partners. In the high-speed world that we live in, it’s possible to be married to someone on the other side of the earth. The great distance limits the chances for physical intimacy, so, a loyal spouse will wear a chastity belt to avoid acting on any sexual urges in their partner's absence. While others might feel shame or calm, these people must feel invigorated. They wear their chastity belts as a reminder of their love and loyalty and it must fill them with determination to have a happy and healthy relationship. I’m also opposed to the practice of trying to rely on wet dreams for release - there are several studies showing that frequent ejaculation clears the prostate & associated glands of fluids that can become ‘stale’ & there’s strong evidence this may help prevent development of prostate cancer. Studies showed that men who had more frequent ejaculations had a lower rate of prostate cancer later on. In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub. Hsieh, Carina; Varina, Rachel (31 July 2019). "Everything You Need to Know About Ruined Orgasms". Cosmopolitan. Archived from the original on 10 October 2019 . Retrieved 17 September 2019.Finally I want to highlight the psychological impact of chastity on the person that doesn’t wear the cage. As a keyholder (the person that keeps the key to someone’s chastity device) there are expectations and pressures that many won’t consider. You hold the key to someone’s happiness and enjoyment in your hands. In my relationship I know the commitment it takes taking on my role and I accept that with pleasure, but for others that dedication might be too much to handle. Know your limits and communicate openly, otherwise you’ll likely fail.”

Our aim is to offer high quality products at affordable prices with discreet worldwide delivery. Many chastity belts that we've seen on the market are incredibly expensive and we don't think that's particularly fair, so we do our best to offer the best devices for the lowest prices. All of our products are thoroughly tested to ensure that you receive a safe, quality item that you’re happy to use on a regular basis. Unfortunately, however, Pete does not speak the language of clothes. My dress and zebra-sandals are essentially shouting at him in French. Unable to make out a word they are saying, he panics. It's a top-notch item,'' he says, staring at it. ''Unusual. It's, ah, amazing that 'they' keep coming up with innovative things - even in 2012. That's … got to be good news for the fashion industry!'' Most of us have females as platonic friends. A good many of us have ex-girlfriends. Both of those are good options. I have always tended to remain friends with my ex-girlfriends after the romantic relationships ended. Just because we weren’t a good fit for a relationship doesn’t mean they aren’t perfectly good friends. Out of my last four ex-girlfriends, I’d be comfortable with asking three of them to be my keyholder. At least two of those I’m pretty sure would agree to do it. I also have two female friends I’ve never dated that are definite maybes.Women speak the language of clothes. Everything we wear is a sentence, a paragraph, a chapter - or, sometimes, just an exclamation mark. A true chastity experience usually involves a decision-maker and a chaste person. The decision-maker (or the keyholder) holds the key to the other person’s pleasure, gratification, and release. They can do so metaphorically or literally if the chaste person is in a chastity device. Well, contrary to popular belief your man does not have to be strange or submissive to want to wear a chastity cage for you. The reasons are complex and come down partly to biology (the repeated tease and denial and the long-term wanting to come are the closest he’s ever going to get to a multiple orgasm); and partly to psychology (there’s a thrill in power-exchange for many men… and for many of us women, too, once we realise it’s just harmless fun and nothing to be afraid of). Mistress Thorne has created this simple guide with images to talk you through each stage of the process. 1. Safety precautions Chastity isn’t just about abstaining from sex. That would be too easy and not that kinky, right? The true spirit of chastity lifestyle lies in the power exchange (naturally) and the fact that the keyholder has all of it. So chastity enthusiasts aren’t really abstaining from sex and sexual gratification — it is forbidden to them.

What we wear influences how we act. Wearing clothes that suit us and compliment our style often results in increased levels of confidence and drive. On the other hand, wearing ill-fitting clothes, be it too tight or too loose or clothes that don’t suit the occasion, such as wearing a T-shirt to a wedding, tend to make us shy away from socializing and enforce a negative self-image. Like everything that we wear, chastity belts have a unique influence on our psyche. The question is, what is that influence specifically, and how does it manifest itself? He had to wear the device anytime that I was going on a date regardless of what his key holder allowed. I made it explicit that I would not promise that I would keep his secret from my dates. However, at first I did keep the device secret. That would change later. He was now in chastity for much of the time. I noticed an immediate change in him. He was more docile; he was more obedient and listened carefully. He learned not to interrupt me (or his key holder). I got more interested in the device and used it for small humiliations. But he loved humiliation, so it was a mutual feeling. The bottom line is men love to wear a chastity cage, and any man who is wearing one is doing so only because he wants to. The stories you read about men being ‘forced’ to wear then are just that – stories.

Orgasm denial practices can allow the dominant to exercise control over many aspects of the submissive's life. As such, they are often (though not always) practiced as an extension or enhancement of a broader BDSM relationship, or as a means of establishing one. They can allow the dominant to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power, and the submissive can enjoy intense feelings of sexual objectification and submission to the dominant. Sometimes, it’s good to go into something blind and find your own way of doing things. However, with chastity, we advise you to do some heavy research. We all know that abstaining from orgasms can improve our sex life because it builds up excitement, and there’s also an element of suspense. However, chastity includes much more than that.

What we wear affects our psyche. But why we wear it does so too. Wearing a chastity belt can affect our emotions differently depending on the reason that we wear it. Through those emotions, we get a glimpse at the person underneath, and we get to see a small fragment of who they are; the culmination of their nature and their nurture. Regardless of whether others can see them or not, what we wear shows a part of our story. And they say you shouldn’t judge a person by what they wear. But why shouldn’t I judge a book by it’s cover when that’s what the cover is for? As a ‘late’ answer to Lincollon - you said Prostate Cancer is related to diet & consumption of dairy. That is not correct - much research has been done to try to understand what factors relate to increased risk of developing PCa. The only factor that comes up as a risk is family history - in my case, my paternal grandfather had it & my Uncle (Dad’s brother) also had it. So far, no dietary or other lifestyle factors have turned up, altho there’s some correlation between frequency of ejaculation with it - the more frequent, the lower the risk. One theory about why this is so is that fluids retained in the Prostate may become sort of ‘stale’ & that changes could lead to tissues becoming abnormal & eventually cancerous. So it’s thought that frequent ejaculation kind of clears the gland & keeps it functioning in a healthy manner. Switching roles is an ideal way to walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. Even if their role isn’t something you’d necessarily enjoy, it will give you an insight into their mind and feelings. Try Chastity Belts and Devices Rose (18 August 2014). "Rose Answers: Premature Ejaculation 101". Pure Pleasure Shop. Archived from the original on 30 August 2018 . Retrieved 31 August 2018. [ unreliable source?]Chastity belts have a great deal of myth surrounding them. So much, in fact, that it becomes hard to differentiate between the fact and the fiction of the matter. For one, their early history remains clouded and doubtful. While a reference to them appears in 14th-century text, scholars and experts have yet to find any that can be dated to that time period. It appears that the idea of chastity belts was conceived of as a joke, poking fun at the overtly purity fixated society of the time. So in a cautious “fake it until you make it” manner, try out the chastity lifestyle and see what works for you and what doesn’t. Learn from your own experience. That’s the best way to figure out if you’re ready for a lifestyle change or not. Switch Sides at Least Once