A Good Spanking

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Spanking should always be a last resort, after issuing non-physical punishments like timeouts, grounding or denial of privileges. At the end of the day, protecting our children is often about stopping them from doing dangerous things.

In our household, spanking was a punishment that was dispensed exactly as it’s “meant” to be: calmly, rationally, and with a focus on helping the child to understand the reason for the punishment. However, if individuals wish to try spanking therapy with a partner, they may want to speak with a trained spanking therapist first for advice or training. Statement by international health organizationsin support of prohibition and elimination of all corporal punishment of children. Beyond just being pleasurable, spanking can also be connected to memories, a psychological theory known as ‘imprinting’ (no, not in the way it’s described in the Twilight books).According to Dr Becky Spelman, a psychologist and clinical director of the Private Therapy Clinic, the reason for our appreciation is both physical and emotional. If you’re new to impact play, start with your hands, because they’re easily accessible/attached to you and won’t hurt your wallet. You can learn more about how we ensure our content is accurate and current by reading our editorial policy.

The sucking reflex is important for infant nutrition and is used in both breastfed and bottle-fed babies. Sarah*, 44, likes being spanked because it calms her, and she’ll occasionally use toys to add to the impact.

For example, if you are willing to reason with a girl who misbehaves, but resort to spanking immediately when a boy misbehaves, this is unfair.

Clear communication is important, so the practitioner understands what people are hoping to get out of the session and the acts with which they can remain comfortable. Conditional spanking (a mild spanking after a 2-to-6-year-old child has defied a less extreme form of discipline) is less risky than spanking as a first resort, according to some studies. People may speak with a practitioner for spanking therapy or learn how to do it safely with a partner.Act the way you want your child to act, even if you aren't sure that your child is paying attention. Moreover, the additional blood flow to the surface of the skin that results from a playful slap makes all of the nerve receptors in the skin more sensitive, enhancing the sensation of a caress. After the session, the practitioner will check in with how people are feeling and allow time for them to process the emotions that may have come up. The spanking should be mildly uncomfortable but not painful, so make sure to listen to the child's responses, to know if you are hitting too hard.

According to spanking therapy practitioners, they may use their hands to spank the lower, inner quadrant of the bottom. I also enjoy admiring my stripes and bruises the next day, if I’ve been spanked very hard (perhaps with a hairbrush or a paddle). If you spank with some or all clothing removed it often is more traumatizing and risks creating confusing sometimes erotic sensations in the child, even as early as 7 years old. Reclaiming or relinquishing power through the act of spanking may help some people regain psychological control over past traumatic events. Individuals may also class it as any consensual BDSM spanking to release certain emotions or work through issues, such as trauma.Sometimes, if a child isn't following a rule often, it's because they're having a hard time (not because they want to be disobedient). Luckily, I was able to curb her hitting within a few weeks of that first visit to the behavioral therapist.